“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”― Shannon L. Alder
Many people come and go from your life and this is always assumed as a general event of life. However, there is an event in which two people come together and it becomes official and a mutually taken agreement to stay with each other as a partner for life and this is what people mostly do as a marriage agreement. However, in a few cases, this bonding doesn’t always work for life and separation happens between the couples. As the divorce rate is increasing across the globe at a very rapid rate we decided to highlight the problem through our article.
When a couple decides that they are no longer able to stand together anymore for whatever the reasons, they are allowed to be separated legally through their mutual consciences, this dissolution of marriage is known as divorce.
The causes of divorce may vary from couple to couple. No matter what the reasons are the results are drastic. Amid various causes, in this article we will converse the few foremost causes that typically give rise to separation, these are given below:
- Financial crisis
In healthier financial state, families are most likely to live more contented lives. Although as soon as increased financial crisis may also lead the couples to seem to have more arguments and experience stressful irritability from both sides in their place. If these financial disputes are not handled rightly on time, they can lead the couple toward divorce.
- Parental Interference
The excessive interference of the parent of both sides into the couple’s life may also be the cause of misunderstandings and confusion between a couple’s lives, ultimately in some situations, it even leads to divorce.
- Real-life Challenges
When a couple enters each other’s life the door of marriage, their roles and responsibilities suddenly get changed. Now the new roles demand more thoughtfulness and maturity to deal with day to day situations in order to make the marriage work. Responsibilities can be any inside and outside home duties, family time or partner’s satisfaction. At that point quality and balance is two most countable facts to keep a marriage smoothly running. When the efforts don’t match from both sides, and responsibilities are being divided unevenly this makes the marriage disproportionate. This disproportionality and not being able to meet challenges together like a one-hand goes to wreck the marriage relationship between them.
In a divorce, partners not only physically separated, but it is also financially and emotionally a great trauma for the both no matter how strong they are. Before taking any step towards divorce, the couple must try to rationally analyze the role they are playing in the relationship. If you have children then you must definitely try your level best to resolve your issue as that is a much better option as compared to the dissolution of marriage. Children suffer the worst due to separation of parents psychologically.
How to Prevent Divorce
If you want to make your marriage work there are following ways that can help you out in doing so:
- Don’t Give UpWhen you confronted with such challenges, you can’t simply accept the defeat and let the marriage end. No, simply no one ever prefers to get themselves into such an excruciating event of life which changes a person whole outlook towards life and damage them economically, personally and emotionally.
- Mutual EffortsThe compensations must be done together to make peace with each other and further keep their inside and out side’s house roles at equilibrium, appreciate each other’s effort and respectfully address them weaknesses.
- Seek HelpMoreover, if the stress and issues between you and your partner seem to be uncontrollable, try to seek some help such as consultations, mediation, and couple therapies. They specialize in giving you the most suitable advice to make your marriage work. Moreover they help in resolving issues through providing coping strategies and effective communication among partners so that they can better understand each other.
- Financial Support
There is no doubt that the world is progressing rapidly and with the time the expenditures of a simple household are getting out of hands, to keep financial balance, the partners must work shoulder to shoulder which may help to avoid conflicts and have fewer chances of separations. Females are rapidly participating in all spheres of life and there should be a mutual effort in finical matters too. Men should help their wife in household chores and females should also help and contribute in family expenses.
When You Should Consider Divorce?
You must always try to make things work constructively but in some cases that physical, verbal and emotional abuse getting separation can turn out to be the best way if issues do not get resolved even after you have tried your best. There is no point to stay in something toxic that constantly breaks you down into pieces. Before you make this decision make sure that this is actually what you want and also keep all the consequences under consideration.